Prepare to be Inspired: Young Women Leaders of Today
Pro bono coaching for the Coaching Fellowship has given me the great privilege of working with some extraordinary young women who are making a positive change in our universe.
They inspire me and keep me connected to the younger generation. It’s a way that I give back to young people and to offer what I have learned throughout my many years as a business woman and student of life. Today meet Aisha.
Conversations for Action: Are you in the stands or on the ice? Part Two
Conversations for Action get us on the ice, moving the puck and advancing on the goal.
Most of us have experienced meetings or one-on-one conversations that consist of a lot of talking but result in little or no action. They are like the conversations in the stands at the hockey game – possibly interesting, maybe exhilarating, but that make no difference to the outcome of the game.
Conversations for Action: Are you in the stands, or on the ice? Part One
Work and The Inconvenience of Life
The Bamboo Leader
Boss like a 'Mentor'
This Forbes article: 31 Telltale Signs You Are A Horrible Boss got me thinking. Many of us may recognize our former or present bosses described in this article. AND, we may just recognize ourselves!
I began to wonder what happens to someone when they become a boss?
Which led to … do we need to have bosses?
What practical function do they provide and do the negatives outweigh the benefits?
And finally, how can you “Boss like a leader?”
Leadership Wisdom: Practice the Pause
When I think about the many mentors, teachers, guides, coaches and colleagues in my life whom I view as “wise”, what stands out for me is this: wisdom is borne of practice and reflection.
Practice and reflection turns knowledge into wisdom. “Wise” people have put ideas into practice, and then they pause to reflect on the results.
Priorities are Essential
When Good Days Go Bad
As a leader, you’d probably prefer to spend your days on the fun stuff—the wins, the successes, the good news about the latest product launch, or the excellent way the team collaborated. But the reality is that moments of celebration and acknowledgement tend to be fewer and more fleeting than you might expect. You’re more likely to spend your day dealing with the things that break down
Listening: The Most Important Leadership Skill
Alignment: What it is and Why it Matters.
Have you ever been in a meeting and thought everyone agreed on a decision that was presented? Then find out later that people were not acting on the decision, were actively sabotaging the decision, or confused that a decision had even been made?
I help leaders deal with these mischief-makers all the time. Usually, the situation comes about when there’s a lack of alignment.
What is alignment?
Alignment is when everyone can get behind the decision, even if they have reservations; they agree that it’s the best course of action at present and good enough to get the game in play.
Alignment is different than consensus. This is a “good enough for now” approach to forward action. People leave the meeting committed to the decision and effectively cascade that information and stand behind the decision.
And when there’s a lack of alignment, it’s usually because:
The team leader doesn’t know how to get alignment.
There’s not enough trust on the team to have an open discussion about the decision.
People are unclear about their role in the decision-making.
The team leader doesn’t surface and allow for concerns, opinions, recommendations, etc.
People feel railroaded.
People think “I’ll just go do what I want anyway … there are no consequences.”
People feel straddled between their allegiance to their own organization and the leadership team. They believe they have to choose and most often err on the side of their own organization.
A few years ago, I dealt with a situation where Jessica, the newly promoted head of an organization was unaware that one of her section heads was not behind a decision that had been made. The consequences were ultimately destructive for the entire organization. Here’s the context and how that situation unfolded:
Jessica was promoted to the executive director position of a medical group. Initially, she was unable to get alignment for her decisions, particularly with Jim. He was the director of one of her leadership teams and tended to have an autocratic style.
Everyone knew Jim had wanted the executive director job. He saw the job of executive director as his last chance before retirement to run the organization. When Jessica got the position, he proceeded with a chip on his shoulder and attempted to discredit her at every turn.
In his own meetings, Jim didn’t allow much time for discussion. He was a powerhouse in his own right. Jim had strong opinions and was often at loggerheads with Jessica.
Unfortunately, that message cascaded down to his medical team. He would tell them what the executive team decided and that they had to implement it. He let his team know he disagreed with the decision. Not only that, he bad-mouthed the executive team and specifically Jessica.
As these things go, word of that got back to Jessica and the executive team.
You can imagine the net effect of that on the executive team, his team, and the teams they managed. The impact looked like this:
People on the executive team didn’t respect or trust Jim. He lost credibility.
Jim appeared as a victim and disempowered to his medical team. The “they’re making me / us do it” mentality.
Jim’s team became blockers instead of enablers to forwarding implementation of programs for the larger organization.
Jim’s team (and the cascade of employees) were getting mixed messages from the organization’s leadership and from Jim and were confused.
Morale dropped. People did not feel and believe they could contribute and make a difference; they did not feel they were moving together toward common goals.
Jim didn’t set up his team for success, and the individuals on his team were seen as complicit.
Skepticism in the larger organization increased, along with this smaller team’s resistance to change.
These were the consequences for Jim, his team, and the company. Jessica, however, in her role as leader, could have headed off the damages when she took her new role, by implementing a few leadership techniques.
Upon reflection, Jessica asked herself whether she had rushed things to achieve her goals, rather than take time upfront to build a strong team foundation. Did she:
Explicitly discuss her decision-making model or process … how the decisions were going to be made. (Core issue: Team operating principles.)
Work to build team trust? When people are afraid to speak up and give their opinion. (Core issue: Team trust.)
Create a problem-solving environment that allowed for productive conflict where differing opinions are surfaced, expressed, and discussed and a diversity of ideas are encouraged? (Core issues: Trust, facilitation, team operating principles, meeting agenda.)
Allot enough time for a meaningful discussion about decision? (Core issues: Facilitation, agenda.)
Make sure people were aligned and committed to the decision before they left the meeting? (Core issues: Use of alignment process, facilitation.)
And finally, did she or other people on the team railroad others into a decision? (Core issue: Team operating principles, effective communication, facilitation, trust.)
Getting the alignment required to function well as an organization takes rigor, effective facilitation, and time upfront. The price paid up front is far, far cheaper than the downstream costs and unintended consequences of a leadership team that is not aligned behind decisions.
What is Alignment and Why Does it Matter?
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What to Expect When Working With An Executive Coach
Look for a coach with whom you feel comfortable, just not too comfortable. You’ll have to know that line for yourself.
It’s essential that you be able to let your guard down. Trust is king. The sooner you are able to develop a trusting relationship with your coach, the more quickly you’ll make progress...
The ROI of Commitment
Hey CEO, We’re Not in Kansas Anymore
Remember how the Scarecrow wanted a brain? How the Cowardly Lion looked for courage? How the Tin Man searched for his heart? While all along, Dorothy longed for home.
They went on a journey together in search of the Wizard, thinking he had what they desired. At the end of the journey, they realized they already had inside what they were seeking, all along.
Our clients often land at our doorstep seeking answers. But, we don’t claim to be wizards....